Divorce can feel like a threat to your identity – a betrayal of how you view yourself and what once brought meaning and safety to your life. It can feel like a tug of war to break free; to stop the dance even when you know you should. Still an identity crisis after divorce can be less pervasive when you have the right support during the process.
Uncertain change. That’s what most of us fear. Whether it’s the end of a relationship, moving to a new location or work environment – when we don’t have control over what’s changing it’s scary. A flood of questions takes over our minds and we wonder how and if we will be able to survive it …
Maintaining your identity in marriage is not something I ever understood until it was too late. When I separated from my first husband at the age of thirty one, I admit I celebrated my freedom; it was exciting because I had never lived alone. It was nice to have a place to call mine. I …
But, I recently read an excerpt from a People Magazine interview of the Wade’s on their “collaborative marriage”. My first thought was ‘I still don’t like Gabrielle Union’; my next one was ‘Ha, I like the sound of that’.
I was impressed. Some of these reality TV shows portray celebrity marriages with husbands and wives as frustrated, confused, and restricted by their marriage. Probably because they fear losing their identity.
But it’s my experience that a collaborative marriage actually leads to happy, satisfied, confident, spouses.
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