Maintaining your identity in marriage is not something I ever understood until it was too late. When I separated from my first husband at the age of thirty one, I admit I celebrated my freedom; it was exciting because I had never lived alone. It was nice to have a place to call mine. I …
But, I recently read an excerpt from a People Magazine interview of the Wade’s on their “collaborative marriage”. My first thought was ‘I still don’t like Gabrielle Union’; my next one was ‘Ha, I like the sound of that’.
I was impressed. Some of these reality TV shows portray celebrity marriages with husbands and wives as frustrated, confused, and restricted by their marriage. Probably because they fear losing their identity.
But it’s my experience that a collaborative marriage actually leads to happy, satisfied, confident, spouses.
Without self awareness, you may continue to lash out, only making the situation worse.
An Open Letter to Shaniece Hairston
Divorce is hard. You’ve spent a substantial amount of time as one half of a married couple. Two lives had been intertwined and now you must figure out how to fill the gaps your former spouse previously occupied. In essence, you have to pick up the pieces and put yourself, your life, back together. At …